Praying that My Son is a Godly Husband
Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands.14 You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.
15 Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring.[d] So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.
So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.
As a single, divorced mom, I know how important a spouse can be….and I know how difficult being divorced is. I know God hates divorce.
Obviously, I want to pray for a wonderful wife for my son. But, before I do that, I really need to pray that he will be a wonderful husband.
I’m obviously not a guy, but I think it must be hard being a man these days…and most certainly a Christian man. Male and female roles have changed so dramatically over the past 50 or so years that it must be completely confusing to man to figure out just what he is supposed to be.
I tell my son, constantly, that I have never found something in the Bible that did not hold true…even if I went against it in my stubbornness.
The Bible makes it clear that a husband must love, protect, and provide for his wife and family. Call me old fashioned, but I am raising my son to be the breadwinner in his home. Obviously, there may be times when the roles are flipped – such a s a lay off. However, for the most part, I think it is important for him to be the biggest, and at times the sole, provider for his wife and children. In my humble opinion, it helps keep balance in the family structure.
Mind you, I am a working woman – I have always worked full time since I graduated college, worked every summer from the time I was 16, and have, for most of my adult life, worked at least 2-3 jobs at a time to make ends meet. I am not a sit on my hiney kind of girl that expects someone to take care of me – I have the Lord. However, in a marriage, someone, sometimes, has to take the lead. God says that role goes to the husband. Being the majority provider helps this.
I also feel it is a wonderful blessing to be able to stay home with your children, especially when they are small. There is so much less stress on the family. I know that staying home is not easy, but it is far easier than being a working mom. Please don’t get all upset if you are a stay at home mom…what you do is wonderful and important. But, I have my summers “off”…and when my son was small, I did not work in the summer. Thus, I was able to be a working mother for 10 months and a stay at home mom for 2. Those 2 months were like paradise to me. The house was clean, meals were cooked, I had time to cut coupons and do fun little projects with my son. It was so much easier than doing all of those things AND working.
So, I want my son to be able to provide for his family and allow his wife to stay home if she so chooses.
More than that, though, I want my son to protect his family. That involves so much. He needs to physically protect them – safe home, safe neighborhood, that sort of thing. He needs to emotionally protect them by being a good husband and father – making them feel loved and emotionally safe. Finally, and most importantly, he needs to spiritually protect them. Thus, he must first be spiritually sound, himself.
I come to You this morning asking You to grow my son in You. Prepare His wife, Lord, but more importantly, prepare him for her. Lord, make him the kind of man You want him to be, so he can be that kind of a man for his family.
Please let him be the provider and protector of his family. Let him never, ever leave them, Lord. Let him understand the huge responsibility he is taking on when he marries, and just how seriously You take his role in the covenant.
Lord, guide his steps to allow him to meet the girl You know is right for him. And guide them together as they build a life – let it be centered on You, Lord. I know they will have hardships, but Lord, as long as they are focused on You, I will not worry.
Lord, You know how special and wonderful I think he is. Please bring him a wife that feels the same way. Oh, and Lord, please let me really like her, and let her like me. It would be great to have a daughter.
Thank You Lord,
In Jesus’ name – Amen!