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Mother’s Day and the Single Mom

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Mother’s Day is quickly approaching! 

It is always a lovely day, filled with gifts, flowers, and meals for mom.  Some families do it up all fancy, while others revel in homemade and from the heart.  Either way, mom is honored and loved.

“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.”

Exodus 10:12

However, keep in mind that most, if not all of it, has to be orchestrated by someone other than mom – especially when the children are little.  Usually, it is dad.  For some lucky single moms, it is Grandma and Grandpa that gather up the kids, give them a little money, and take them shopping for mom.

But then, there are many single moms without that kind of a support system.  They may have to actually take their kids shopping for them – give them some money and set them free in the store to “buy” something for her.  Thank goodness, most schools make a little something crafty for Mother’s Day – but not always.

Too often, especially if we see a single mom “making it”, we forget.  We forget that her job is infinitely harder than other mother’s jobs.  You see, the single mom has to stay healthy, all the time, or just fight though being sick.  The single mom has to go to work, then come home and do all the wifely chores like cooking and cleaning, baths and bedtimes.  Then, on the weekends, after the ball games and ballet practice, the single mom is mowing the grass after making sure her kids have a video and snacks to keep them occupied.  She has no one to bring her a glass of cool ice water while she toils in the heat.  She has to trim the hedges and pull the weeds, she has to wash the car and do the minor repairs.  She is the epitome of the Proverbs 31 woman.

She makes linen garments and sells them,
    and supplies the merchants with sashes.
She is clothed with strength and dignity;
    she can laugh at the days to come.
She speaks with wisdom,
    and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
She watches over the affairs of her household
    and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children arise and call her blessed;
    her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many women do noble things,
    but you surpass them all.”
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Honor her for all that her hands have done,
    and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

 So, let’s honor her…

She is solely responsible for the bills.  She alone deals with homework, projects, quizzing spelling words and multiplication tables.  She is the only one to deal with the broken hearts, the bad grades, the problem with a friend, the game of catch in the back yard.

She NEVER GETS A BREAK. She DOES IT ALL.

Interestingly, I rarely hear single mothers complain.  She is the wise woman who does not tear her house down.

The wise woman builds her house,
    but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down

Proverbs 14:1

Mostly, they are thankful – thankful that God gets them through every day.  Thankful that they have a job, and that they can use their sick days for when their child is sick (even if that means going to work when she is sick).  Thankful for the energy God gives to make them able to do everything that two parent households do.

She IS THANKFUL.

So, if you know a single mother, PLEASE take a moment to think of her….I bet she rarely asks for any kind of help…  If you see that $12 pot of tulips in the grocery store, maybe pick it up.  Give it to her kids to give to her.  What a blessing you will be!!!!  The joy that would fill her heart would be immense! 

So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, …

Philippians 2: 1-30

 

 

 

 

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